How to get Confidence?

Courteous confidence: What you think of yourself is reflected in
the way you treat others. A very effective way to raise your own level of
confidence is by acting positively toward the people around you. Rudeness toward others, whether intentional or not, is a sure sign of a lack of confidence.
When you have no respect or consideration for others, it's difficult
to have much confidence in yourself.

Ironically, one of the worst things you can do for yourself is to
think only of yourself. The more genuine respect, consideration and courtesy you express toward those around you, the more your own confidence will grow.

If someone is rude to you, make every effort to be sincerely pleasant and courteous in return. Just because someone else is allowing rudeness to drain away their own energy, doesn't mean you must do the same.
Have the confidence to be courteous, and the confidence to act with
genuine respect toward others. Your positive attitude and positive
actions will empower you with even more confidence and energy.


-- Ralph Marston

A day of mixed feelings......

Reckless words pierce like a sword,
but the tongue of the wise brings healing

Curse is comin back on mi.....

Suppose to be at Thailand now and yet, sitting at home aimlessly surfing the net....
What the heck! arggggg.....
A Month ago, we have boooked a trip of five to Bangkok for a 5-days get-away.
But the day before, the curse came.... coup in Bangkok....
Due to safety result, we decided to postpone the trip to end of October as the stupid agency does not allow any cancellation.
Since I have already taken leave, I decided to take the time to accompany my wife and son these few days. Feels a little guilty for not spending enough time with them..

My wife has craving for coffee thus the first stop over tampines is at Ya Kun. Both of us had set A. (1 coffee, 2 eggs and 2 slices of butter kaya bread.) After that we went for a baby spree basically. Baby clothes, toys, toddler musical discs, and hell a lot more than my hands can take... Bleeding man... Machan at bangkok's Chatu Chak Market.

At around 3pm, I was getting tired with the shopping; which my wife will never be...
We decided to move on to my in-law's hse as they miss Jayden although its only an interval of 2 days. After a while, I started to get bore and decided to revamp the aquarium in my in-law' house. It was damn polluted with algae and waste from the flop of disastrous subang king. (My father-in-law brought them which I never would.)

Started with full overhaul of the tank and filters. While doin tat, I get my father-in-law to release the fishes in one of the reservior. After hours of cleaning, I went over to a nearby aquarium shop to buy some accessories and plants. As it's not a CO2 equipped tank, available plants are really limited. After much pondering, spend $30 on 7 plants, a replacement fluorescent tube and a wallpaper.....

Finally, after almost 4 hours of mickering, it's completed.

Life of a working class

Today is just like yesterday.
Tomorrow will be just like today.
A new set of problem will arises tomorrow..
But yesterday's problem will still be there.

That's the life of a working class....

friendships.....

After working like a bull over the past 6 years, I finally discovered that life is not all about working... Working will alway play a part in everyone's life; regardless of whether you are born as a pauper or with a silver spoon.

Work enriches our life, experience and knowledge.

In actual fact, I do find work interesting and nourishing but life is far more than it. There are others which are as important. In the past, I always feel that engaging in recreation is a waste of time and is basically a form of distraction to work. However, over the past few months, I realised that friends and family are just as important.

After a long hectic day, friend gatherings can be a diminutive holiday although it's just that a few hours. I felt that friendship are analogous to wine, will only grow better in time.

During my school days I remembered my mum always complaining that I priorities friends over family. I do agree to a cetain extent but I suppose it is basically unsymmetrical. Its a together different FEEEEEEELINGS.....

Treasure your friendship cos once it's gone, it's gone.....

A Company will grow only if the staff are growing

After numerous torturing by the client, finally something concrete came out of it. All thanks to my mentor for the valuable advise. Thanks, Shi Fu...

Last month, I have recuited a project engineer and a project coordinator, bringing my department head count to 6. Projects are coming in and my department is expanding at a modest speed. My strategy plan seems to be going pretty smooth but it's still a distance away from my ultimate goal.. But at least, it started to take shape and is happy with the progress.

Currently, my immediately action is to strengthen my team members and stabilising the structure.

Since I have never been a good motivator thus getting the best out of my fellow colleagues can never be an easy job. I concur that sometimes or rather most of times, I can be a discordant and insensitive person. But that was due to the disappoint that comes along.

??? ............. I wonder if my expectative of my fellow colleagues seems a bit too high or I have been over demanding. But I eager for their own success...

My working Philosophy:
Success always comes with sacrifies.




Its been more than a month since I last blog.... Time really waits for no one.
It seems yesterday that I have just married....

3 more weeks and I will be a daddy liao.... Daddy?
Excited and eagerly awaits for the day to come....

Superman

Some days you wake up and fell like Superman. Some days you wake up and know that you have to be Superman whether you feel like it or not. I had no choice in this case.

I'm working as a project manager in a SME company. Having sandwiched between a highly demanding or rather entrepreneur boss and a team of green horn subordinate kills me off.
I'm just like a big umbrella, always got to be there to shelter them regardless of rain or shine... In fact, I dun think that they are incapable for the job.. just want to go the easier way or simply, not interested...

I am a human being just like you.
Superman only exist in the virtual world.

Level up up up.....

Happen to see this in one of the blogs and hope to share with you guys.......

A man walks into a drug store with his 8 year old son. They happen to walk by the condom display, and the boyasks, "What are these, Dad? To which the man matter-of-factly replies, "Those are called condoms, son. Men use them to have safe sex.""Oh I see," replied the boy pensively. Yes, I've heard of that in health class at school." He looks over the displayand picks up a package of 3 and asks, "Why are there 3 in this package?"The dad replies, "Those are for high school boys, ONE for Friday, ONE for Saturday, and ONE for Sunday." "Cool" says the boy. He notices a 6 pack and asks, "Then who are these for?" "Those are for college men," the dad answers, TWO for Friday, TWO for Saturday, and TWO for Sunday." "WOW!" exclaimed the boy, "then who uses THESE?" he asks, picking up a 12 pack.With a sigh and a tear in his eye, the dad replied, "Those are for married men. ONE for January, ONE for February, ONE for March....."

Quote of the day

"If you can't get someone off your mind maybe they are supposed to be there!"

A new chapter of life....

Finally, IT'S OVER..... I mean my customary lah...
At last got a chance to blog... Trying to juggle between work and marriage is no play. Dammed tiring. But luckily, I have a group of buddies around me. Always there to give me a hand when I need most. Really appreciate you guys.. er not forgetting my dear dear, padi. Dun be mistaken, we used to be one unit away neighbour and through these years, have also becomes a 'brother' of mine.
Marriage is a strange thing. Me and my wife had ROM almost 1 1/2 years liao and been living under one roof since. But the next day after my customary, I feel changes in my life. I started to realised that I have a family liao and my shoulder is weighting down all of a sudden. Oh my god......
But anyway, I believe that this is part and parcel of life... The only different is whether you are ready or not. Well, I would say that, financially, manageable at this moment; physically... YOU WANT TO TRY??? hey hey, i mean household chores leh..... dun side track please.... for goodness sake.

But truely, as for my heart..... Am I really ready? Is my heart setting down yet? Acually, I can't even get a answer to this at this moment.... A person who is a casanova in his school days happens to be the first to marry. What a joke.... Do I really have to bury my casanova sword liao meh....

But well, life still goes on...... And dun expect life to go smooth sailing all the way so...... lets' let nature takes its course Pa!

blissing in disguise

I was supposed to be outstationed this weekend for a important task but..... dammed it, my intl passport is expiring in less than 6 months..... No doubt about it, I was tick off. Shit!!!
But........ Blissing in disguise, I managed to won some money over the mj table in chris' home. It was a long nite till almost 10am.. And first time round, I cycled to chris' home and anyway, it just took me 10 minutes. Can exercise and also save the cab fare.

Can't get enough of my wedding photo.... :)

I'm just waiting for someone to come along and make me happy

Its been a while since I last blog.... getting buzy with work and also my wedding bell is drawing near... Anyway, I just collected my wedding photo and like to share with you guys...

Late night charge

Can anyone tell me why I simply can't sleep even at this weird hour?

Ever since I started working on my current Job, it's almost my daily routine to stare blank (open eyes BIG BIG!) a this time. I'm not complaining as I jolly well understand the pros and cons of it. ( Anyway, as i mention, I enjoy this period as its' the most quiet time of the day.) Due to this weird weird habit, I make it a point to meditate for the day; identifying any gaffe. Whenever I spot a boo-boo act, I will always tell myself not to do it again. (Pls, are you a idiot to do this kind of stupid things?) By the facts of all, history do repeats unfortunately. But at least I can minimize it to the minimum... (I'm trying! I'm trying!) Hoping that one day, HISTORY DON'T REPENT! (Blessing in disguise i suppose...)

The down side of it is that I have to wake up the next morning, reaching my office at 0830hrs.
And for your info, just to sound more convincing, I just got home from work about 2 hours ago... ( Wah, super idol...) or some may say (Wah, STUPID LAH!) Anyway, its' up to you to guage and luckily, I don't want to know.

If not for this job, I dun know what or who I will be now. Still selling fruits and tropical fishes? To be honest, that period of time is the best so far. ( can't say best of my life since i have yet to gone through half of it, i suppose lah hor.) Gone are the worries and deadlines to meet. Bubbles oozing out of the tanks spawning the voices of mother nature, so carefree and smoothening to the ear.... Hundreds and thousands of fishes dancing along with the waves forming a breathtaking musical opera. (Okie, stop dreaming and talking rubbish.... NOW!) The fact is that that with that kind of life, only within my dreams am I able to own a cubbyhole, not even mentioning this laptop I'm on.

Am I living a meaningful life? Am I ripping off my prime youth period, my knowledge and the potential within me. Is it the life I'm striking for or just trying to break away from reality. This are the questions I ask myself at that moment and even till today. Currently, my revitalized life revolves around work and work and work and work and er.... a little bit of sleep. And not to forget blogging of cos.... No regrets at least to this moment b'cos I know that the hardwork I'm putting in are appreciated. (Anyway die die have to work, why not work hard hard HARD! so that you can harvest earlier and retire lah.) Sounds like only pros and no cons leh!

The contradicting part of life is......... To be honest, if i have a choice or rather if I'm not part of this miserable and horrigible (Horrible + Terrible) materialistic world, I would still setter for the former. Fuck care all but ........ only if I strike Toto this friday... Dreamz on............... gd nite.............


I have set long terms as well as short terms goals for myself as a driving force.
A person without goals will only live tomorrow just like today or yesterday.

Insomnia

The night have fallen and the surrounding appears calm and peaceful. I really enjoy this moment of the day and treasures it.
As I was writing this blog, my wife is laying beside me having a game of chess with zhou kong. I was trying to blog by her side hoping to catch some of her sleeping bugs.
Ohm! She just woke up due to my disturbance.... got to stop liao... byz........ n Shhhhhhh....... be quiet pls...........

Home Alone

As I was surfing the net, it started to rain. I felt lonely all of a sudden, and a urge initiates me to blog ...... Wonder if bloggers are a bunch of solitaries . My wife (Yes! I'm married) have went to my in-laws' house for midnight prayer. ( Nineth day of the CNY, dun know call wat in english, sori.) I can't go over as I got to work 2ml while she's on leave. Shiok rite.

Lucky, I hade my slice of joy too. This weekend hectic, man! Played mj for 2 consecutive nights and also went to buddies' hse for CNY gathering. Had not been meeting my old time friends for quite some times but fortunately, the bond is still conspicuous. I would say that it is a fruitful gathering. Full of laughter and joy.

Yesterday, I played with my mj jinx, Mr. Holy man. Damm fucking stress but however dun really wish to elaborate. Anyway, no animosity, just a friendly game.

A little bit not link but just got the urge to put this to my blog.
My Best man, ( you know who you are....if you happen to get your way to here) are tangled with relationship problems. Not again.....
I dun really gets to know the whole picture but just feel sad for him.
Me or rather all of us have said a lot to you these few days but choices are still within your hand.

Hope that you can bare in mind;
Nobody can make you miserable without your permission. No matter what someones say or does, you decide how you will react.


Got to put a dot liao. Time for warcraft.... hee hee.